Hey Mama! I see you today. I see you struggling. I see you trying to juggle the craziness of motherhood, always being pulled in multiple directions. Trying to hold it all together but feel like you are failing daily. I am here to tell you that despite those thoughts and feelings of failure, that you are doing an AMAZING job. You are a wonderful mother and you are doing the best you know how.
Being a stay at home mom I have found it really difficult to get motivated to put myself together each morning. I mean what is the point? Who will see me through out the day? My 2-year-old who clearly could care less about food stains of if I have or haven't showered in a couple days. My 5-year-old who thinks having unmatched and/or holes in clothes is the cool thing to do. My 11-year-old who obviously doesn't pay attention to what I say let alone what I am wearing. OR my husband, who lately, seems gone more than he is home between his military job and his full-time civilian job. So, again I repeat, "what is the point?" The point is...
Blogging is all the rage right now, it seems like everyone has one! There are bloggers out there making thousands and tens of thousands of dollars JUST off their blog! Must be the sweet life, am I right? I mean how hard can blogging really be anyways? You write a couple blog posts, share them on your Facebook page and then like magic you start making money. Right!?! WRONG! Sorry, to burst your bubble but there is more that goes into blogging than just slapping up a catchy blog post.
I stared in the mirror this morning as I was blow drying my hair for the first time in weeks, no makeup and dressed in my "mom" clothes. How did I get to this point? To a time where I go days between showers and weeks without makeup. The younger me, the me before I had kids, would take one look at my current momiform and be like, "Nope. Not me. I will still take care of myself when I have kids." It is super easy to get down on myself when I start thinking these thoughts.
I had a conversation with my daughter this morning as I was taking her to preschool.
“I don’t want to go to school.”
“Oh, why is that?”
“I don’t like sitting criss-cross applesauce on the carpet.”
Oh, how I wish I could go back to simpler times when sitting criss-cross applesauce on the carpet circle was my biggest challenge of the day.
Mom Bashing… what’s the point?
OK, y’all. Can we go ahead and STOP the mom bashing!! I just don’t get it. Really, what is the point? Now, agreeing to disagree is cool. However, to straight up say “YOU ARE WRONG because you do/believe/have xyz”, is not appropriate. EVER!
If you have checked out my homepage or the sidebar on this blog then you will know I don’t have time for mom bashing or any bashing… who does? Not this mom! And, it does not belong on this blog or anywhere else for that matter. Thank goodness I haven’t seen any here yet.
Nonetheless, what brought all these feelings back to the surface was not something that happened to me but to Mandy Moore...
We are spending this Valentine’s Day apart, come to think of it we were apart last year too. I am starting to think you are doing this on purpose. Haha.
We are coming up on our 11-year wedding anniversary and it has me thinking a lot about our relationship and what it means to me. It is SO EASY for me to go through the day doing the mundane activities that need to be done to make this family run semi-smoothly, that I forget about the things I need to do to show you love.
The kids are going crazy again, my husband is working, the “to-do” list in my head is growing longer by the minute and I am about to lose my ever lovin’ mind. Have you been there?
First, STOP. Then, BREATHE. Repeat, I GOT THIS! And, take a moment for yourself AWAY from everyone else. It is time for momma to learn some self-care tips.
Sometimes it looks like a bomb went off in my mom bag. Somehow, no matter how much I DECLUTTER my bag, I ALWAYS end up with a ton of stuff. I don’t know how you mommas use tiny purses… there is just no way I could fit everything in there. And trust me when I say I am not one of those overly prepared moms by any means, but I have found that these key things are ESSENTIAL to my MOM BAG!
Last year, I wrote this post as a way to release some of my feelings I had built up inside while by husband was deployed. Being a military spouse is not for the faint of heart. Then you add kids and a busy schedule on top of a deployment, it can be a recipe for "all the feelings". I relayed this devotion as a way to encourage not only myself through this time but others as well. I really needed to re-read this today.
My husband is home now, we survived, YAY!! But there is always something going in our lives that we just need to surrender over to the Lord. In my case, our house is on the market and has been since October... we have had A LOT of people walk through it and LOVE it but no offers. We are still waiting. I have to remind myself that God will fight for us! Whether, it is a deployement or selling our home, he is on our side.
I just need to be still.